Dating a new person
A healthy relationship is one between two equals, both giving and receiving in reciprocal fashion.If you find that you are in a relationship that has a lot of benefits but there are some kinks that need to be addressed, best to discover effective ways of handling these conflicts early on.In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.
Playing it cool and not getting too involved may make you feel safe, but you risk coming across as aloof or remote, and may turn the other person off.If fear of commitment is an obstacle, better to work out your patterns (or schemas) in therapy than in your relationships. If you do it, then you need to pace yourself, and be more considerate of the other person, who you are probably leading on. Not being honest about your needs: Pretending everything is OK can work for only so long.If you fall for those who do it, then you need to slow things down and not get taken for a ride (or pursue a different type! Assertiveness is a golden skill for those who are ready for a mature relationship.Relationship coaching or couples therapy can help you learn how to better manage problematic issues so that they are no longer impinging on the health and happiness of your relationship.While most mental health professionals don’t consider themselves to be “dating therapists” or offer special dating counseling, it is often helpful to apply the best practices of cognitive therapy to improve all aspects of dating, from date selection process, to the process of forming a healthy positive relationship, preferably one that meets the needs of both parties and therefore becomes a long-term relationship.