But there is a glaring fault in many of our models, a double-standard.
Once we are married, we recognize that certain things are sacred to our partner.
My basic premise is that regardless of how we about things, we should follow God's model, because it will be the most effective and fulfilling.
My intention is to convey that conviction, then to describe my current understanding of His model.
In the Bible, the parents were always involved in the marriage process.
They did not arrange the marriage without the childrens' consent, although they were certainly involved in the arrangements.
As Christians, our primary purpose in life is to seek and serve God, and fulfill our destiny in Him. We need to find out what God's plan for relationships is, and then follow it. Let's study what we are doing now against what God has described in His word, and draw up a new standard. Other terms, such as 'betrothal' or even 'biblical dating' could be used, although they would possibly be confusing.
The current model that we are using is ineffective, at best. Dating was invented in the early part of this century.
I have adopted the view that the Bible holds the truth for life today.
And it is my conviction that the wordly system of dating, as it is currently conducted by most people, is far from God's original plan, as described in the Bible.
I intend to expose the flaws I see in today's dating model, and at the same time point out how Biblical courtship addresses these flaws.
Instead of enjoying their teen years as they build skills and character, they are getting distracted into the quagmire of relationships that they are not equipped to conduct.
The teen years are those where they have the fewest responsibilities at the same time as having their greatest energy level. They should be an opportunity to develop a deep, intimate and personal walk with God, establishing themselves as young warriors who know the Father and have overcome the evil one (1 John ).